How Do I Give? Apparently, Overwhelmingly…

 

So, i’m texting with Ms. Straight Gurl (who by the way, caught wind of her pseudonym and is looking forward to “proving me wrong”). We’re in the phase where we’re just getting to know one another. Every conversation is fun and we get to ask lots of questions to learn about one another. 

I asked, “What are your love languages?” 🤔

She sent me the screen shot below…..

At first I thought, “Damn Ma! You mad prepared for my question.” 😂.. 

She said the list above is how she receives but she’s an acts of service and gift giver. Then she wanted to know my love languages. I told her:

1. Quality Time
2. Acts of Service
3. Physical Touch
4. Receiving Gifts
5. Words of Affirmation

I also said, “I love getting socks, lol... like cute ankle socks, Kate Spade socks or just super cute socks, little ones to walk around the house in after my shower…”

She said, “Ok. That’s how you receive. How do you give?”

I had to think..🤔🧐…. then it just poured out, my truth… I said, 

“I listen out for the things she says she needs or wants. I keep a running note of it on my iPhone. I give those things to her regularly. I also ask, “List at least 10 things which make you feel loved”... whatsoever is on that super important love list, is what I give very heavily and very often. I also plan and pay for exotic trips and once in a lifetime experiences…..

I make sure everything is handled... and held down, hard... I make sure all basic fundamental needs are met and never worried or even thought about... like cars for example, whether i need to fix one or buy a new one that’s reliable enough for my lady to drive, then I do that. I keep all of the maintenance: wipers, oil, tires, and detailing... On Sunday nights, I fill the gas tanks for the week.

In a shared home, I keep up the house structure, mechanicals, the exterior and the lawn. I’ve been known to have the best lawn on the street.

If i observe my lady being overwhelmed negatively by anything... I immediately solve it if I can. If the house is too dirty then i’d get a maid. If there’s no time for errands, then i’d get an assistant. If she needs my attention, then I’d close my laptop.

I keep stress and worries down to a minimum. That’s how I give 👀.”

She said, “I can’t type that fast Unique... and I’m overwhelmed by you. “

There goes that word again… overwhelmed.. I was just honest. 🤷🏽‍♀️ That IS what I do. I am not proud of many things. But one thing I do take GREAT pride in, is being a stable provider and making sure that my woman is not just happy, but happier than she’s ever been, happier than she ever thought she could be and happier than all of her bald headed ugly friends, lol… 😂🤣 

I tend to date the fine one in the group… there’s always one fine one in a group of basics.

But anyways, back to being overwhelming 😳👀… I asked her if she’d like me to share less. She said no 🤷🏽‍♀️. She told me not to change. She just wanted me to know that she may not be able to respond as quickly or expressively as I do via text. Also, she said she might need time to process my words but she loves my expressiveness. 

I told her to take all the time in the world. I also told her it’s OK, if she can’t respond. No big deal. 🤷🏽‍♀️

I’m going to take a break and process being overwhelming….

It’s time for lunch now. I’m having Tofu Pad Thai!

Ciao